Church-Community Connection: Make Your Day a Good Day in 5 Seconds | Features

Sometimes the problem is not the problem. Consider this case: Dinner: “I can’t eat this soup.” Waiter: “Sorry, sir, I’ll call the manager.” Dinner: “Mr. Manager, I can’t eat this soup. Manager: “I’ll call the chef.” Dinner: “Mr. Chief, I can’t eat this soup. Cook: “What’s wrong?” Dinner: “Nothing. I don’t have a spoon.

Years ago, I discovered a principle about life that I knew was real but did not clearly understand. Then I found out that Stephen Covey had written about it. This is called the 90/10 principle.

Dr Covey said: “10% of life is what happens to you. The other 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does it mean? We have no control over 10% of what happens to us. The other 90% is different. You determine the remaining 90%. How? By your reactions. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction to a red light. Don’t let people fool you. You can control your reaction.

Here is an example of how it works. You have breakfast with your family. Your daughter spills a cup of coffee on your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by your reaction.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking over the cup. She bursts into tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and blame her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle ensues. You go upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find that your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must immediately leave for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you are driving at 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15 minute delay and a $60 fine, you arrive at school. Your daughter rushes into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to go from bad to worse. You can’t wait to get home. But, when you get home, you find a little wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? It’s because of the way you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is D

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. The way you reacted during those 5 seconds is the cause of your bad day. Here’s what could and probably should have happened.

The coffee splashes on you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s okay, honey, you just have to be more careful next time.” Then, grabbing a towel, you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase and come back down in time to look out the window. You see your child getting on the bus. She turns around and nods. You arrive 5 minutes early and greet the staff cheerfully.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios started the same way. The two ended differently. Why? Because of the way you reacted. You have no control over 10% of what happens in your life. Your reaction determined the remaining 90%.

Once I was speaking in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I stayed up late writing this weekly column to make sure you meet my deadline. When I finished the article, I thought, “It’s time to go to bed. I have a big day tomorrow. The article came out fine. People will like it. »

When I hit the send button on my laptop, my weekly article disappeared. I tried everything I knew to find it, but it disappeared, joining myriad other emails in the graveyard of cyberspace. Remember, I had just written this article about controlling our emotions and emotional non-reaction, and how 90% of what happens to us in life is determined by “Yours Truly”. The thing I feared came crashing down on me. The last two plus hours have been wasted. It’s late at night, I’m tired, and now I have to rewrite the whole article.

My reaction? Well, let’s just say I’m glad you, my reading audience, weren’t in my hotel room at the time. I know you would never react the way I did, which wasn’t good. To the right?

Let’s take this test again. A) Was it the computer’s fault? B) Was it the Internet’s fault? C) Was it the hotel’s fault? D) Was it my fault? The answer is probably D, but if you give me enough time, it could be answer C.

Isn’t it interesting how something goes and goes “BOOM” when we think we have it together? Now I have more sympathy for the man whose coffee spilled on him.

Our takeaway: When you write an article, talk about a topic, or introduce yourself as the answering machine, be prepared because you’ll be tested on it. A verse of scripture says, “He who stands up, be careful lest he fall.” In other words, 90% of pundits become ex-puffs. Be careful, never say that you have everything to please golf. It’s as if the Titanic is backing up and crossing the iceberg again.

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